Polyamory vs. Swinging

Polyamory vs Swinging

There is often some common confusion between the swinging lifestyle and polyamory, some people can even go as far as thinking the terms are synonymous and interchangeable.

Personally I see major differences and mixing them is really not a great idea in my view.

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Don’t talk, just listen.

Rick and Carl sitting on the church steps

I was watching an episode of The Walking Dead on the train while on my way into work.

The main character Rick gave his son a single piece of advice and it’s a good one.

“Don’t talk, just listen, it’s a rule for life.”

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Polyamory, a flag of convenience

Polyamory flag

I’ve noticed resently that the term polyamory is being used by some parties as a way of trying to make cheating seem okay. In short, this makes me really angry.

Polyamory for me is about being honest and truthful with anyone I wish to engage in a relationship with.

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Phombies

Phone Zombies - the apocalypse has arrived

I’m sure I’m not alone in my experience of slow moving people on public transport systems and in my specific  case London underground.

In the past the cause has more often than not been age or physical disability, which are both understandable and obesity which is unfortunately a fact of modern life for many people often due to circumstance.

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Attached At The Hip- A Poly Horror Film

Two fingers tied together with string - codependency

I found the following blog post in my daily field quite a while ago and squirreled it away for a suitable moment.

Take the time to read it through and I think you’ll agree it’s worth it.

“Couples that are codependent scare me. Codependant Polyamorous couples terrify me…

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Happily ever after and poly

Happily ever after and polyamorus because love sets your

Here’s a very interesting and search question for those within the poly community.

Is it possible to actually be poly and find that elusive happily ever after feeling?

If we first start by throwing out the widely accepted starvation economy model regarding love, we may all stand a chance I guess.

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Relationship killers

Man with a knife in a stabbing pose

There are four major relationship killers out there on the rampage. They come in many disguises, but will reap destruction where ever they go if left unchecked.

1. Personal Criticism

“What is your problem? Can’t you do anything right!?”

Complaints are a natural and normal part of healthy relationships. We should all be able to discuss a specific complaint with a partner and reach some sort of agreement.

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Recap to Reinforce

Recap to reinforce

Following an intense session of sharing thoughts and emotions people are often feeling vulnerable and raw, so it’s not usually a good time to go back over the same ground immediately.

However once everyone has had some time to relax and settle down, say a day or so.  Its not a bad idea to suggest and hopefully start a  recap relating to the discussion, this can then become a vehicle for summarising the issues and any related actions or resolutions that’s have been agreed to help moving the issue forward.

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