Almost a year…

Well I’ve been single for almost a year and it’s starting to feel normal.

I can’t say that I don’t miss the company, but it’s pretty much become the norm for me now.

I’ve had a few dates but unfortunately not met anyone that ticks enough of the boxes to get really excited about.

I guess there are just some things in life you just can’t rush. I’ve tried numerous ways of meeting new people but none of them have resulted in anything of note.

Let’s see what happens as the days start to get longer and warmer.

Frustration

The only thing more annoying than not knowing what you want, is actually knowing what you want but not being able to find it…

I’m having one of those moments right now and the harder I try to find what I want the harder it seems to be to find it.

Transactional vs Altruistic relationship models

Polyamorous people tend to think about relationships a lot. I’m no exception, hence the blog. What I want to investigate in this post is the concept of the transactional and altruistic relationship models.

So let’s first define and agree what we mean by the term “transactional relationship” and why it’s an important stage in any relationship.

Polyamory as a Sexual Orientation???

Vice.com just put out an article about people seeking to qualify polyamory as a sexual orientation. It’s not, but don’t stop reading. Polyamorous folks seeking to qualify polyamory as a…

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Love Rich but Time Poor

 

For romantic relationships in general there are three key factors

• Time
• Money
• Love

Two of these factors are finite and one is considered infinite from a polyamorous perspect (Love).

Lying with silence

Nothing can do more damage or kill a relationship than a lie.

A lie is defined as an intentional false and misleading statement or deception by omission. It can also be seen to include any action or failure to correct a pre-existing misconception.

All good things

I find myself in the rather unfortunate position of what I’ve decided to call a relationship transition.

I avoiding the usage of the term “breakup” because that usual infers a complete breakdown in all contact, and I’m hoping that’s not going to be the case.

Haiku – Change

“Previous weekend downs
Working week realisations
Positive outlook”

Things Change

Hi folks, it’s been a while since I last posted anything and that’s mainly been down to the natural pressures of a busy life.

I’ve survived the last couple of months of crazy, busyness at work.

One of my partners tried a new possible relationship that crashed and burned even before it’s really start, which has caused her no end of emotional pain. My other partner has also had problems in one of her relations, all based on the fact he’d been honest with her about many things.

Polyamory vs Cheating

There is a fundamental difference between a monogamous cheater and a polyamorous person in a monogamous relationship.

Polyamory has no space for cheating, it’s quite the opposite. It’s about expressing our needs, wants and desires with the added benefit of possibly being able to make them a reality.