Haiku – Loves

love-passion-lust

“Life with many loves
A polyamorus passion
Not always that easy“

 

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Attached At The Hip- A Poly Horror Film

Two fingers tied together with string - codependency

I found the following blog post in my daily field quite a while ago and squirreled it away for a suitable moment.

Take the time to read it through and I think you’ll agree it’s worth it.

“Couples that are codependent scare me. Codependant Polyamorous couples terrify me…

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Happily ever after and poly

Happily ever after and polyamorus because love sets your

Here’s a very interesting and search question for those within the poly community.

Is it possible to actually be poly and find that elusive happily ever after feeling?

If we first start by throwing out the widely accepted starvation economy model regarding love, we may all stand a chance I guess.

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Relationship killers

Man with a knife in a stabbing pose

There are four major relationship killers out there on the rampage. They come in many disguises, but will reap destruction where ever they go if left unchecked.

1. Personal Criticism

“What is your problem? Can’t you do anything right!?”

Complaints are a natural and normal part of healthy relationships. We should all be able to discuss a specific complaint with a partner and reach some sort of agreement.

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Recap to Reinforce

Recap to reinforce

Following an intense session of sharing thoughts and emotions people are often feeling vulnerable and raw, so it’s not usually a good time to go back over the same ground immediately.

However once everyone has had some time to relax and settle down, say a day or so.  Its not a bad idea to suggest and hopefully start a  recap relating to the discussion, this can then become a vehicle for summarising the issues and any related actions or resolutions that’s have been agreed to help moving the issue forward.

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Being Brave

Being brave or making that leap of faith

The only thing tougher than accepting ownership of our thoughts and feelings, is sharing them with other people. It takes guts to open up and lay yourself vulnerable to others.

It’s also easy to fall into a habit of trying to second guess another person’s reaction to your thoughts, feelings and actions.

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Mind Reading

Mind reading in relationships

Let’s be totally up front and honest about this, the ability to read minds is not a prerequisite for any relationship, however based upon the behaviour exhibited towards others by many people it seems there’s a tendency to assume that it is. Alas mind reading is a bit of a lost art and rarely to be found in us lesser mortals, so we have to approach this need to know about our partners thoughts and feels via communication.

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Listen to hear

Listen to hear, not to respond

Communication is the very life blood and foundation of a good and solid relationship, but it comes in two parts.

  1. Expressing our thought and emotions to others so they can better understand
  2. Listen to what others, so we may better understand them.

It’s sad to say that the latter part is often neglected, because we only listen to respond and often fail to hear or understand.

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A bad Friday

A bad day, not

Normal I like Fridays, but yesterday was definitely an exception.

My 9 year old daughter was knocked of her bike by a car on the way back from school. She escaped with a few scrapes and bruises which was good. I’m so glad we’ve made her wear a fully face downhill style helmet. It saved her chin and face from sliding along the road.

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