From Poly with Love?

A heart drawn in the sand upon a beach at sunset

I’ve noticed a bit of a disturbing trend and shift in people calling themselves polyamorous, when what they really mean is polysexual.

I’ve also noticed that in several articles that I’ve read recently that there is a playing down or complete removal of the love component from the writers views about polyamory.

So I’m really beginning to wonder what’s actually happening out there, in the ever expanding landscape of ethical non-monogamy and relationship anarchy; Is love now officially a dirty word?

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Polystress

stress

I’ve been at my new job for almost three weeks so far, I’ve been more open about my poly nature as and when the questions have been asked by a few of my closer colleagues. All of them to date have accepted it at face value and just continued with the conversation after responses such as “Oh cool” or “I thought you had a wife, how does having a girlfriend as well work?”. At which point I elaborate as required.

I’m sure I’ll run into a negative response at some point in the future, but I guess I’ll just have to cross that bridge as and when it happens.

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Back to work again…

Back to work post it note

Life has been somewhat busy for the last few months, I’ve completed a large complex two year project for my last client and moved on to a new client this week.

I’ve been staying with my girlfriends family during the week for the last three months and they’ve been wonderful and accepting, but I have missed my own space. That’s why I’m really happy about just moving into a new flat, which has been a bit of an additional challenge while changing jobs.

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The Danger Of Using STI Risk To Control Others

One of the most critical parts of polyamory is being completely open, honest and truthful about sexual history and activity. A polycule is only as stong as the weakest link, it just takes one person doing something irresponsible to bring the whole world crashing down.

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Jealousy – Face the facts

Envy versus Jealousy

No matter how good you or your partners think you are at being open and polyamorus there is bound to be a time that you feel jealous.

The key with jealousy is not avoiding or denying it, but dealing with it when it arrives. Don’t ignore it, don’t shut it away in the back of your mind, it will grow.

Talking about jealousy is extremely important because it matters. It will affect everyone in the relationships.

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Heaven and Hell

Heaven and he'll - angels and demons

I read a quote this morning and it started me thinking. It’s just one of those simple mem quotes we find all over the Internet.

“If a man expects a woman to be an angel in his life, he must first create heaven for her. Angel’s don’t live in hell.”

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Polyamory and seasonal holidays

Seasonal holidays - Bah humbug

I really haven’t been in the right mood to write anything really meaningful over the last few months. Life has been a bit difficult to be honest, especially due to the changes going on within one of my relationships.

I won’t go into too much detail but things are really starting to improve after some tough conversations. It’s amazing how polyamory can cause you to really take a long hard look at facets of your life and relationships that you’ve either overlooked or neglected.

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