There is often some common confusion between the swinging lifestyle and polyamory, some people can even go as far as thinking the terms are synonymous and interchangeable.
Personally I see major differences and mixing them is really not a great idea in my view.
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Been an interest couple of months for me and all because my partners are spreading their poly wings. Now there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s a key part of why we all chose to identify as polyamorus.
However deciding to test the dating water requires a little more thought than usual if you’re poly, especially if you already have existing relationships.
Continue reading “Who needs agency?”
I’ve personally used the term Cowboy or Cowgirl to describe a person who is monogamous that attempts to get romantically involved with someone who openly identifies as polyamorus.
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I’ve noticed resently that the term polyamory is being used by some parties as a way of trying to make cheating seem okay. In short, this makes me really angry.
Polyamory for me is about being honest and truthful with anyone I wish to engage in a relationship with.
Continue reading “Polyamory, a flag of convenience”
I was having a late night catch up call with one of my partners after a couple of really busy days and the conversation was flowing really well until I asked for some input into a decision or at least some indication of direction. I was greeted with a simple answer of “I don’t really mind”. This pretty much cut the conversation dead and really annoyed me for some reason, so I went to sleep wondering why.
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I found the following blog post in my daily field quite a while ago and squirreled it away for a suitable moment.
Take the time to read it through and I think you’ll agree it’s worth it.
“Couples that are codependent scare me. Codependant Polyamorous couples terrify me…
Continue reading “Attached At The Hip- A Poly Horror Film”
Here’s a very interesting and search question for those within the poly community.
Is it possible to actually be poly and find that elusive happily ever after feeling?
If we first start by throwing out the widely accepted starvation economy model regarding love, we may all stand a chance I guess.
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There are four major relationship killers out there on the rampage. They come in many disguises, but will reap destruction where ever they go if left unchecked.
1. Personal Criticism
“What is your problem? Can’t you do anything right!?”
Complaints are a natural and normal part of healthy relationships. We should all be able to discuss a specific complaint with a partner and reach some sort of agreement.
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Over the past few years I’ve not had a particularly good experience during the festive period. It’s the time of year when I always find my available time stretched to and beyond breaking point.
My time has to be carefully distributed between my kids, partners, friends, family and of course myself and not necessarily in that priority order. Unfortunately it never seems to go quite as far as other people think it should or can, so the net result is usually disappointment all round and the real loser always seems to be me (nail hand to forehead).
Continue reading “Tis the season to be poly…”