Almost a year…

Well I’ve been single for almost a year and it’s starting to feel normal.

I can’t say that I don’t miss the company, but it’s pretty much become the norm for me now.

I’ve had a few dates but unfortunately not met anyone that ticks enough of the boxes to get really excited about.

I guess there are just some things in life you just can’t rush. I’ve tried numerous ways of meeting new people but none of them have resulted in anything of note.

Let’s see what happens as the days start to get longer and warmer.

Being Solo

Well I’ve made it through my first six months of being single but still poly.

I’ve met a few nice people but really haven’t met anyone who can set my world upon fire.

I spent Christmas with my kids and even sometime with my soon to be ex-wife. She’s having a tough time right now and list her Grandfather today, which has really hurt her.

I’m just hoping that my life will turn a well needed corner at the start of the new year and maybe lady luck will look kindly upon me.

I have so much to give and share which is why I’m finding it so frustrating right now. I suspect my age isn’t doing me any favours.

I will remain true to myself and what I believe, no matter the cost.

Getting back in the game

I really haven’t been in the right sort of mind to write anything for a while, but I find myself this evening actually in the mood.

However, I’m not really sure what to write about…

Over the last few years polyamory has been a really big part of my life and taught me many wonderful life lessons.

It’s not always been plain sailing and my current situation is far from perfect, but I’m really quite happy with who I am and how I conduct myself in all facets of my life.

I’m currently single, but to be honest I’m not sure I have time for anything else right now, however if the right opportunity happens to present itself I’m happy to roll the dice and see what happens.

I would like to find my muse again and I guess all good things come to those that wait.

I spent an interesting weekend down at London Comic Con and realised how isolated I am socially. I enjoy my own company and that of my daughter, but I guess I really need more.

Finding love is never easy, being poly doesn’t improve my chances either, but I won’t hide who or what I am.

So wish me luck and watch this space.

When has it been long enough


I’m starting to wonder if it’s time to start looking for a new additional relationship. I didn’t want to feel like I was on the rebound and it’s been over 4 months now.

I miss much of what I had in my last relationship, but it had basically run its natural course.

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Not in the mood…

I’ve been rather quiet for the last few months as I been settling into a new job and location. I’ve also been mourning the loss of a relationship without really realising it.

I guess that’s what happens when you take tour eye off the ball.

I promised myself that I wouldn’t even consider looking for a potential new relationship until I was sure it was what I wanted, needed or desired.

I’m actually enjoy the extra time I have with my kids and that’s a really big bonus I didn’t expect.

I’m still poly, I’m still open about my feelings and feel no need to hide anything. It’s quite liberating and just what I need right now.



Planning for the future

Planning for the future
Welcome To The Future Green Road Sign with Copy Room Over The Dramatic Clouds and Sky.


I’m having an interesting time right now, I resigned from my current job yesterday and have a new one starting in the middle of November.

One of my romantic relationships has started it’s transition into more of a friendship because I really want to keep that person in my life in some way.

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Transactional vs Altruistic relationship models

Transactional vs Altruistic relationship models

Polyamorous people tend to think about relationships a lot. I’m no exception, hence the blog. What I want to investigate in this post is the concept of the transactional and altruistic relationship models.

So let’s first define and agree what we mean by the term “transactional relationship” and why it’s an important stage in any relationship.

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