Talking open and honestly can be tough and painful at times, especially when sharing something that’s really hurting or you’re on the receiving end of some person home truths.
Even if people are using the best communication skills stuff can still really hurt. So when the dust starts to settle looking after all parties in the dialogue is extremely important.
Continue reading “Communication Aftercare”
My attention was drawn to the following blog post this week and I’d like to share it.
It makes a number of excellent points about desirable behaviours, skills and qualities within relationships.
Takes a look and feel free to share your thoughts ☺️
Source: The Poly Must-Haves
The only thing tougher than accepting ownership of our thoughts and feelings, is sharing them with other people. It takes guts to open up and lay yourself vulnerable to others.
It’s also easy to fall into a habit of trying to second guess another person’s reaction to your thoughts, feelings and actions.
Continue reading “Being Brave”
Let’s be totally up front and honest about this, the ability to read minds is not a prerequisite for any relationship, however based upon the behaviour exhibited towards others by many people it seems there’s a tendency to assume that it is. Alas mind reading is a bit of a lost art and rarely to be found in us lesser mortals, so we have to approach this need to know about our partners thoughts and feels via communication.
Continue reading “Mind Reading”
Communication is the very life blood and foundation of a good and solid relationship, but it comes in two parts.
- Expressing our thought and emotions to others so they can better understand
- Listen to what others, so we may better understand them.
It’s sad to say that the latter part is often neglected, because we only listen to respond and often fail to hear or understand.
Continue reading “Listen to hear”
When we are in the middle of a heated debate, it’s tough to stay objective, especially when it’s about behaviour and starts to feel like a personal attack.
We all have to accept that unfortunately people are not perfect and that includes us, our partner(s) or partner’s partner(s). We are all by our human definition creatures ruled and driven by our emotions.
Continue reading “Talk, don’t judge”
I book marked this piece for a repost many months ago. It struck a deep cord with me, take a look and see what you think…
I would like to make something very clear. Polyamory was not the direct cause of the dissolution of my marriage. It was an indirect cause. It ignited a fire in a relationship that was already fract…
Source: In defense of polyamory
It’s time for another communication post and this one can be a very unpleasant experience.
“Other peoples shit”
As if dealing with our own emotion state is not enough, on top of that we have to also navigate our way through or around other people’s emotions and their less than perfect ownership.
Continue reading “Other peoples shit”
Quite some time back I wrote a post on this subject and it’s actually been one of my most viewed posts ever since. Not a day goes by without it being viewed.
Continue reading “What is a Male Unicorn – Part 2”
In my initial post on the subject of “owning one’s own shit” I briefly touched on the need to take personal ownership for the current state of our emotions.
For us to take on this responsibility, we need to first accept that it’s okay to feel what we feel and this is where negative feelings come into the equation.
Continue reading “Negative feelings”