Polystress

stress

I’ve been at my new job for almost three weeks so far, I’ve been more open about my poly nature as and when the questions have been asked by a few of my closer colleagues. All of them to date have accepted it at face value and just continued with the conversation after responses such as “Oh cool” or “I thought you had a wife, how does having a girlfriend as well work?”. At which point I elaborate as required.

I’m sure I’ll run into a negative response at some point in the future, but I guess I’ll just have to cross that bridge as and when it happens.

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The bright side

the-bright-side

Sometimes it really hard to look upon the bright side of life. It can seem like the universe is conspiring against you when you’re in that deep dark personal purgatory of self analysis.

In these darkest of moments it is all too easy to just give up and let an overwhelming wave of self pity wash over you and then drown in its wake.

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Things you don’t want to hear during a first date

first date

The first date is where things begin and its generally always a good idea to try and get things off to a good start.

A few basic things to remember

  1. Keep yourself busy before the date to help eliminate nerves
  2. Always choose a public or familiar place to meet where you’ll feel comfortable and secure
  3. Tell at least one firend who and where your meeting, also when you expect to be back
  4. Try and get to know the person before you met, this will help keep the conversation flowing
  5. Dress to impress but don’t go over the top
  6. Arrive on time, no one likes being made to wait
  7. Enjoy the date and try to have fun
  8. Try to asking questions about values and feelings rather than just facts
  9. Take the time to listen, you may learn more by simply relaxing and listening to your date
  10. End the date is important too, If you’d like a second date  tell them! If your not sure something like “It’s been lovely meeting you, I really enjoyed it.” leave the door open.

However, things can sometimes go very wrong and here are a few potential red flag statements to look out for 😉

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