Don’t talk, just listen.

Rick and Carl sitting on the church steps

I was watching an episode of The Walking Dead on the train while on my way into work.

The main character Rick gave his son a single piece of advice and it’s a good one.

“Don’t talk, just listen, it’s a rule for life.”

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Happily ever after and poly

Happily ever after and polyamorus because love sets your

Here’s a very interesting and search question for those within the poly community.

Is it possible to actually be poly and find that elusive happily ever after feeling?

If we first start by throwing out the widely accepted starvation economy model regarding love, we may all stand a chance I guess.

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2 years blogging

Two years of blogging award on WordPress

I discovered today that I’ve been writing this blog for over 2 years and identified as polyamorus for close approaching 3 years. Doesn’t time fly when you’re having fun 😆

So I’d like to say a big thank you to all those who have read my bramblings, liked my posts and especially those who have chosen to commit by hitting the follow link.

I may be getting older but I’m still learning something new every day and this is very important for me. My thoughts, views and feelings on many subjects keep changing and evolving. I believe that being capable of changing by opinion based on experience, evidence and rational thinking helps improve and define me as person.

I still believe in my very basic and simple mantra “Truth, Trust and Honesty”

Recap to Reinforce

Recap to reinforce

Following an intense session of sharing thoughts and emotions people are often feeling vulnerable and raw, so it’s not usually a good time to go back over the same ground immediately.

However once everyone has had some time to relax and settle down, say a day or so.  Its not a bad idea to suggest and hopefully start a  recap relating to the discussion, this can then become a vehicle for summarising the issues and any related actions or resolutions that’s have been agreed to help moving the issue forward.

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Communication Aftercare

Communication aftercare

Talking open and honestly can be tough and painful at times, especially when sharing something that’s really hurting or you’re on the receiving end of some person home truths.

Even if people are using the best communication skills stuff can still really hurt. So when the dust starts to settle looking after all parties in the dialogue is extremely important.

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A bad Friday

A bad day, not

Normal I like Fridays, but yesterday was definitely an exception.

My 9 year old daughter was knocked of her bike by a car on the way back from school. She escaped with a few scrapes and bruises which was good. I’m so glad we’ve made her wear a fully face downhill style helmet. It saved her chin and face from sliding along the road.

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In defense of polyamory

I book marked this piece for a repost many months ago. It struck a deep cord with me, take a look and see what you think…

I would like to make something very clear. Polyamory was not the direct cause of the dissolution of my marriage. It was an indirect cause. It ignited a fire in a relationship that was already fract…

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Other peoples shit

Other peoples shit, it burns

It’s time for another communication post and this one can be a very unpleasant experience.

“Other peoples shit”

As if dealing with our own emotion state is not enough, on top of that we have to also navigate our way through or around other people’s emotions and their less than perfect ownership.

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