Almost a year…

Well I’ve been single for almost a year and it’s starting to feel normal.

I can’t say that I don’t miss the company, but it’s pretty much become the norm for me now.

I’ve had a few dates but unfortunately not met anyone that ticks enough of the boxes to get really excited about.

I guess there are just some things in life you just can’t rush. I’ve tried numerous ways of meeting new people but none of them have resulted in anything of note.

Let’s see what happens as the days start to get longer and warmer.

Being Solo

Well I’ve made it through my first six months of being single but still poly.

I’ve met a few nice people but really haven’t met anyone who can set my world upon fire.

I spent Christmas with my kids and even sometime with my soon to be ex-wife. She’s having a tough time right now and lost her Grandfather today, which has really hurt her.

I’m just hoping that my life will turn a well needed corner at the start of the new year and maybe lady luck will look kindly upon me.

I have so much to give and share which is why I’m finding it so frustrating right now. I suspect my age isn’t doing me any favours.

I will remain true to myself and what I believe, no matter the cost.

Frustration

The only thing more annoying than not knowing what you want, is actually knowing what you want but not being able to find it…

I’m having one of those moments right now and the harder I try to find what I want the harder it seems to be to find it.

Getting back in the game

I really haven’t been in the right sort of mind to write anything for a while, but I find myself this evening actually in the mood.

However, I’m not really sure what to write about…

Over the last few years polyamory has been a really big part of my life and taught me many wonderful life lessons.

It’s not always been plain sailing and my current situation is far from perfect, but I’m really quite happy with who I am and how I conduct myself in all facets of my life.

I’m currently single, but to be honest I’m not sure I have time for anything else right now, however if the right opportunity happens to present itself I’m happy to roll the dice and see what happens.

I would like to find my muse again and I guess all good things come to those that wait.

I spent an interesting weekend down at London Comic Con and realised how isolated I am socially. I enjoy my own company and that of my daughter, but I guess I really need more.

Finding love is never easy, being poly doesn’t improve my chances either, but I won’t hide who or what I am.

So wish me luck and watch this space.

Separation

“Life is now changing
Time to start afresh today
Hoping for good things”

Poly Dating

Finding a date when you’re male, the wrong side of 40 and openly poly can be hard.

I’ve found there seems to be a view that perhaps you’re a bit of a player and not really interested in serious relationships.

No Way it’s Okay Cupid

I’ve recently had a quick glance at OK Cupid and found it to be near enough a complete waste of time even tho it claims to be non-monogamy friendly.

It’s matches seem to ignore my preferences and tends to bombard me with diabolical mis-matches and ads attempting to convert me to there paid service.

Pleanty Of Fish is even worse, the search keeps resetting to defaults and matching me with people up to 15 years my senior and way outside me selected age range. Also the number of automated bot accounts is truly shocking.

Lastly Tinder, what can I say…

Basically no one ever chats after a match, which seems to defeat the whole exercise.

I suspect it’s probably just an age thing 😉

When the sh*t hits the fan

Over the years I’ve had some good times and some bad one. At the current moment things may have just hit an all time low, but I guess that this also means that the only way is up too.

I’m going to get back up, dust myself down and jump straight back in the fight.

There is nothing more dangerous than an extremely motivated me, with the bit between my teeth.

I do have to admit that I’m still waiting for karma to start paying back, I could really do with a break right now.

When has it been long enough

I’m starting to wonder if it’s time to start looking for a new additional relationship. I didn’t want to feel like I was on the rebound and it’s been over 4 months now.

I miss much of what I had in my last relationship, but it had basically run its natural course.

Not in the mood…

I’ve been rather quiet for the last few months as I been settling into a new job and location. I’ve also been mourning the loss of a relationship without really realising it.

I guess that’s what happens when you take tour eye off the ball.

I promised myself that I wouldn’t even consider looking for a potential new relationship until I was sure it was what I wanted, needed or desired.

I’m actually enjoy the extra time I have with my kids and that’s a really big bonus I didn’t expect.

I’m still poly, I’m still open about my feelings and feel no need to hide anything. It’s quite liberating and just what I need right now.

Regards

TK