Poly Dating

Polyamory is hard

Finding a date when you’re male, the wrong side of 40 and openly poly can be hard.

I’ve found there seems to be a view that perhaps you’re a bit of a player and not really interested in serious relationships.

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No Way it’s Okay Cupid

Dating application logos on mobile

I’ve recently had a quick glance at OK Cupid and found it to be near enough a complete waste of time even tho it claims to be non-monogamy friendly.

It’s matches seem to ignore my preferences and tends to bombard me with diabolical mis-matches and ads attempting to convert me to there paid service.

Pleanty Of Fish is even worse, the search keeps resetting to defaults and matching me with people up to 15 years my senior and way outside me selected age range. Also the number of automated bot accounts is truly shocking.

Lastly Tinder, what can I say…

Basically no one ever chats after a match, which seems to defeat the whole exercise.

I suspect it’s probably just an age thing 😉

When has it been long enough

change-is-coming

I’m starting to wonder if it’s time to start looking for a new additional relationship. I didn’t want to feel like I was on the rebound and it’s been over 4 months now.

I miss much of what I had in my last relationship, but it had basically run its natural course.

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Transactional vs Altruistic relationship models

Transactional vs Altruistic relationship models

Polyamorous people tend to think about relationships a lot. I’m no exception, hence the blog. What I want to investigate in this post is the concept of the transactional and altruistic relationship models.

So let’s first define and agree what we mean by the term “transactional relationship” and why it’s an important stage in any relationship.

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Naked Attraction…

Naked attraction

It was suggested by one of my partners that I should watch the controversial channel 4 dating show “Naked Attraction” because a particular episode in the new season includes a self  confessed “polyamorus couple”, she also warned be that it might make me slightly angry and she was right.

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