Getting back in the game

I really haven’t been in the right sort of mind to write anything for a while, but I find myself this evening actually in the mood.

However, I’m not really sure what to write about…

Over the last few years polyamory has been a really big part of my life and taught me many wonderful life lessons.

It’s not always been plain sailing and my current situation is far from perfect, but I’m really quite happy with who I am and how I conduct myself in all facets of my life.

I’m currently single, but to be honest I’m not sure I have time for anything else right now, however if the right opportunity happens to present itself I’m happy to roll the dice and see what happens.

I would like to find my muse again and I guess all good things come to those that wait.

I spent an interesting weekend down at London Comic Con and realised how isolated I am socially. I enjoy my own company and that of my daughter, but I guess I really need more.

Finding love is never easy, being poly doesn’t improve my chances either, but I won’t hide who or what I am.

So wish me luck and watch this space.

No Way it’s Okay Cupid

Dating application logos on mobile

I’ve recently had a quick glance at OK Cupid and found it to be near enough a complete waste of time even tho it claims to be non-monogamy friendly.

It’s matches seem to ignore my preferences and tends to bombard me with diabolical mis-matches and ads attempting to convert me to there paid service.

Pleanty Of Fish is even worse, the search keeps resetting to defaults and matching me with people up to 15 years my senior and way outside me selected age range. Also the number of automated bot accounts is truly shocking.

Lastly Tinder, what can I say…

Basically no one ever chats after a match, which seems to defeat the whole exercise.

I suspect it’s probably just an age thing 😉

When has it been long enough

change-is-coming

I’m starting to wonder if it’s time to start looking for a new additional relationship. I didn’t want to feel like I was on the rebound and it’s been over 4 months now.

I miss much of what I had in my last relationship, but it had basically run its natural course.

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Transactional vs Altruistic relationship models

Transactional vs Altruistic relationship models

Polyamorous people tend to think about relationships a lot. I’m no exception, hence the blog. What I want to investigate in this post is the concept of the transactional and altruistic relationship models.

So let’s first define and agree what we mean by the term “transactional relationship” and why it’s an important stage in any relationship.

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