There is often some common confusion between the swinging lifestyle and polyamory, some people can even go as far as thinking the terms are synonymous and interchangeable.
Personally I see major differences and mixing them is really not a great idea in my view.
Continue reading “Polyamory vs. Swinging”
Been an interest couple of months for me and all because my partners are spreading their poly wings. Now there’s nothing wrong with that, it’s key part of why we all chose to identify as polyamorus.
However deciding to test the dating water requires a little more thought than usual if you’re poly, especially if you already have existing relationships.
Continue reading “Who needs agency?”
I’ve been very quiet for the last few months due to really life becoming extremely busy and more complicated than usual.
The shape of my personal polycule has changed a bit too in the last few weeks. My wife has discovered that one of her partners was not being completely honest with her and they are in the process of being been removed from te herd; meanwhile my girlfriend has started a new relationship and is currently enjoying the initial NRE period, while learn to wrestle with time and multiple partner management.
Continue reading “Life Accounting”
I was watching an episode of The Walking Dead on the train while on my way into work.
The main character Rick gave his son a single piece of advice and it’s a good one.
“Don’t talk, just listen, it’s a rule for life.”
Continue reading “Don’t talk, just listen.”
I’ve personally used the term Cowboy or Cowgirl to describe a person who is monogamous that attempts to get romantically involved with someone who openly identifies as polyamorus.
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I’ve noticed resently that the term polyamory is being used by some parties as a way of trying to make cheating seem okay. In short, this makes me really angry.
Polyamory for me is about being honest and truthful with anyone I wish to engage in a relationship with.
Continue reading “Polyamory, a flag of convenience”
I’m sure I’m not alone in my experience of slow moving people on public transport systems and in my specific case London underground.
In the past the cause has more often than not been age or physical disability, which are both understandable and obesity which is unfortunately a fact of modern life for many people often due to circumstance.
Continue reading “Phombies”
I found the following blog post in my daily field quite a while ago and squirreled it away for a suitable moment.
Take the time to read it through and I think you’ll agree it’s worth it.
“Couples that are codependent scare me. Codependant Polyamorous couples terrify me…
Continue reading “Attached At The Hip- A Poly Horror Film”
Here’s a very interesting and search question for those within the poly community.
Is it possible to actually be poly and find that elusive happily ever after feeling?
If we first start by throwing out the widely accepted starvation economy model regarding love, we may all stand a chance I guess.
Continue reading “Happily ever after and poly”
There are four major relationship killers out there on the rampage. They come in many disguises, but will reap destruction where ever they go if left unchecked.
1. Personal Criticism
“What is your problem? Can’t you do anything right!?”
Complaints are a natural and normal part of healthy relationships. We should all be able to discuss a specific complaint with a partner and reach some sort of agreement.
Continue reading “Relationship killers”