Breaking the ice

Back to work post it note

I have completed the first few months of my new contract and it’s been very different from pretty much anything else I’ve done in the last 20 years.

I’m back in a business suit for the first time in over ten years, which has been a bit of a shock to the system along with really early starts.

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To infinite and beyond

Love is infinite

A common belief held by many people is that our capacity as humans for love, intimacy and romantic relationships with other people should be considered as a precious and finite resource.

For those who choose to accept this belief, there will never be enough love to go around and if you give some to one person you must obviously be taking some away from someone else.

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New milestone

insecurity will destroy you written on a chalk board

Today is going to be interesting, it’s a new milestone within our relationship. She is off to meet someone she’s been chatting with for a while. Not really a date, just a toe in the water.

Something I’ve learned since make the move into polyamory, you have to let people navigate their own path and try new things.

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Let the compersion flow

Okay so it's complicated

I must admit I’m have a bit of a tough time at the moment, I’m finding myself to be very time poor again. This always places a strain upon a relationship and perhaps more so with two.

It’s even more difficult right now, because there is one hell of a lot of change going on within each of those relationships.

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From Poly with Love?

A heart drawn in the sand upon a beach at sunset

I’ve noticed a bit of a disturbing trend and shift in people calling themselves polyamorous, when what they really mean is polysexual.

I’ve also noticed that in several articles that I’ve read recently that there is a playing down or complete removal of the love component from the writers views about polyamory.

So I’m really beginning to wonder what’s actually happening out there, in the ever expanding landscape of ethical non-monogamy and relationship anarchy; Is love now officially a dirty word?

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Polystress

stress

I’ve been at my new job for almost three weeks so far, I’ve been more open about my poly nature as and when the questions have been asked by a few of my closer colleagues. All of them to date have accepted it at face value and just continued with the conversation after responses such as “Oh cool” or “I thought you had a wife, how does having a girlfriend as well work?”. At which point I elaborate as required.

I’m sure I’ll run into a negative response at some point in the future, but I guess I’ll just have to cross that bridge as and when it happens.

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Russians

USA and Russia

In Europe and America there’s a growing feeling of hysteria.
Conditioned to respond to all the threats
In the rhetorical speeches of the Soviets.
MIster Krushchev said, “We will bury you.”
I don’t subscribe to this point of view.
It’d be such an ignorant thing to do
If the Russians love their children too.
How can I save my little boy from Oppenheimer’s deadly toy?
There is no monopoly on common sense
On either side of the political fence.
We share the same biology, regardless of ideology.
Believe me when I say to you,
I hope the Russians love their children too

The Danger Of Using STI Risk To Control Others

One of the most critical parts of polyamory is being completely open, honest and truthful about sexual history and activity. A polycule is only as stong as the weakest link, it just takes one person doing something irresponsible to bring the whole world crashing down.

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