i want to have text with you - Sexting

Here’s an interesting subject, which is better words or pictures when “Sexting”?

Personally I suspect it’s a combination of the two, but I guess it all boils down to the parties involved.

I’m definitely of the opinion that “textspeak” is a really turn off but perhaps some abbreviations are acceptable such as “lol”, “omg” and “wtf”.

I truly believe that the brain is probably the biggest sex organ in the human body, sometimes an idea can do more than a picture, but at other times a pictures paints a thousand words.

I unfortunately don’t spend as much time as I’d really like with my partners due to geographical issues, so instant messaging has become a life-line for maintaining communication and sexting is a big part of that.

There are of course a few very important rules that need to be adhered to when  sexting.

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Just bored with one another


Couple that is bored with each other

Being bored is really not a good reason for trying out the polyamorous lifestyle. Any existing relationship has to be strong and pretty much problem free before even considering dipping a toe into polyamory.

Polyamory is not a cure for a failing relationship, it can however add further dimensions to strong one if both parties within the existing dyad are open to the idea.

The next obvious hurdle is the potential need to “date together”, I’m not saying that its wrong but is likely to head in the direction of “Unicorn Hunting”.

Another potential issue is getting carried away with the initial wave of NRE, I’ve been here personally in the past and it was at the expenses of my long term partner. I’ve since learned that it is possible to bring them with you and its the best feeling in the world.

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Orgy Dreams – another things you like to think about but not do…

The morning after an orgy

I’m sure that most of us at some point have had a few fantasies and wondered what it would be like to make them a reality.

With this obviously comes some risk that the reality may spoil the fantasy. Many of these ideas don’t easily translate well into the real world.

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Polyamory and cheating

Here’s a simple question about polyamory that I’ve often seen asked.

Can cheating occur within a polyamorous relationship?

The very simple and obvious answer is yes it can.

It is probably important to understand and define the term “Cheating”.

  1. act dishonestly or unfairly in order to gain an advantage.
    “she always cheats at cards”
  2. avoid (something undesirable) by luck or skill.
    “she cheated death in a spectacular crash”

Within a relationship of any type “Cheating” can be achieved by either lying by commission or omission.

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Sugar Baby and Daddy

Never really been a fan of the whole “Daddy Dom” idea but I gave it a try a while back after chatting with a friend from the scene who I’d consider to be a Daddy Dom in spades.

I was pleasantly surprised how it made me feel and I would not necessarily rule it out again in the future.

I’ve never really had an issue with age differences in relationships and have seen many with gulfs as large as 30 years work amazingly well. I would admit that I’m drawn to younger partners (above the age of consent obviously), but I suspect that says more about the inner me than the number of rings you’d count if you sawed me in half and counted.

My long term partner and wife is almost 9 years my junior and my girlfriend is 20+ years younger, but for me age really doesn’t count for anything. I guess I just like people, no matter what gender, age, race or sexual orientation.

It’s how they make me feel that really counts.

The following quote is from one of my favourite bloggers, every post she shares normally makes me smile and this one made me laugh. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did and show your appreciation accordingly.

“I want a sugar daddy,” says the vegan, stirring her gin and tonic wistfully, “but I would never—like—do anything sexual with him or anything.” “Interesting,” I say.  I chug my pineapple vodka.”

I must confess I’m not a sugar daddy but I do like to spoil my partners when I feel the urge.

Source: How to be a Successful Sugar Baby