Well we are into December and the festive season is officially upon us. I would however like to point out to some retailers that it really shouldn’t start before Halloween, no matter what they think or feel the need to try and sell us. I do however unfortunately expect Easter eggs in the next few weeks based upon there current inability to understand a calendar.
I have unfortunately digressed from my original post topic and moved into the realms of shopping, so I’m going to go with the flow.
Continue reading “Retail madness”
I discovered today that I’ve been writing this blog for over 2 years and identified as polyamorus for close approaching 3 years. Doesn’t time fly when you’re having fun 😆
So I’d like to say a big thank you to all those who have read my bramblings, liked my posts and especially those who have chosen to commit by hitting the follow link.
I may be getting older but I’m still learning something new every day and this is very important for me. My thoughts, views and feelings on many subjects keep changing and evolving. I believe that being capable of changing by opinion based on experience, evidence and rational thinking helps improve and define me as person.
I still believe in my very basic and simple mantra “Truth, Trust and Honesty”
I’ve had a tough weekend looking after my kids and this has been topped off by a member of my extended family deciding that it’s okay to describe one of my partners as a “Slut” and then a few other choice words.
Now this word has many meanings for different people, but in this case was used purely as a weapon of attack and derogatory term, deliberately utilised to enforce there feelings of disgust at our life style choice and sow poison seeds of derision and hate.
Continue reading “Slut…”
Following an intense session of sharing thoughts and emotions people are often feeling vulnerable and raw, so it’s not usually a good time to go back over the same ground immediately.
However once everyone has had some time to relax and settle down, say a day or so. Its not a bad idea to suggest and hopefully start a recap relating to the discussion, this can then become a vehicle for summarising the issues and any related actions or resolutions that’s have been agreed to help moving the issue forward.
Continue reading “Recap to Reinforce”
Talking open and honestly can be tough and painful at times, especially when sharing something that’s really hurting or you’re on the receiving end of some person home truths.
Even if people are using the best communication skills stuff can still really hurt. So when the dust starts to settle looking after all parties in the dialogue is extremely important.
Continue reading “Communication Aftercare”
My attention was drawn to the following blog post this week and I’d like to share it.
It makes a number of excellent points about desirable behaviours, skills and qualities within relationships.
Takes a look and feel free to share your thoughts ☺️
Source: The Poly Must-Haves
The only thing tougher than accepting ownership of our thoughts and feelings, is sharing them with other people. It takes guts to open up and lay yourself vulnerable to others.
It’s also easy to fall into a habit of trying to second guess another person’s reaction to your thoughts, feelings and actions.
Continue reading “Being Brave”
Let’s be totally up front and honest about this, the ability to read minds is not a prerequisite for any relationship, however based upon the behaviour exhibited towards others by many people it seems there’s a tendency to assume that it is. Alas mind reading is a bit of a lost art and rarely to be found in us lesser mortals, so we have to approach this need to know about our partners thoughts and feels via communication.
Continue reading “Mind Reading”