I discovered today that I’ve been writing this blog for over 2 years and identified as polyamorus for close approaching 3 years. Doesn’t time fly when you’re having fun 😆
So I’d like to say a big thank you to all those who have read my bramblings, liked my posts and especially those who have chosen to commit by hitting the follow link.
I may be getting older but I’m still learning something new every day and this is very important for me. My thoughts, views and feelings on many subjects keep changing and evolving. I believe that being capable of changing by opinion based on experience, evidence and rational thinking helps improve and define me as person.
I still believe in my very basic and simple mantra “Truth, Trust and Honesty”
Talking open and honestly can be tough and painful at times, especially when sharing something that’s really hurting or you’re on the receiving end of some person home truths.
Even if people are using the best communication skills stuff can still really hurt. So when the dust starts to settle looking after all parties in the dialogue is extremely important.
Continue reading “Communication Aftercare”
The only thing tougher than accepting ownership of our thoughts and feelings, is sharing them with other people. It takes guts to open up and lay yourself vulnerable to others.
It’s also easy to fall into a habit of trying to second guess another person’s reaction to your thoughts, feelings and actions.
Continue reading “Being Brave”
I book marked this piece for a repost many months ago. It struck a deep cord with me, take a look and see what you think…
I would like to make something very clear. Polyamory was not the direct cause of the dissolution of my marriage. It was an indirect cause. It ignited a fire in a relationship that was already fract…
Source: In defense of polyamory
It’s time for another communication post and this one can be a very unpleasant experience.
“Other peoples shit”
As if dealing with our own emotion state is not enough, on top of that we have to also navigate our way through or around other people’s emotions and their less than perfect ownership.
Continue reading “Other peoples shit”
This is a good mantra, it isn’t just about poly, it’s about communication within any relationship.
Many of us have never really learned good communication skills as we grow up and many more of us have developed what can only be described as bad communication habits as we get older. So it’s first important to understand what good communication should look like and take action to break our bad behaviour habits if we truly wish to grow.
Continue reading “Communication, communication, communication.”
A common belief held by many people is that our capacity as humans for love, intimacy and romantic relationships with other people should be considered as a precious and finite resource.
For those who choose to accept this belief, there will never be enough love to go around and if you give some to one person you must obviously be taking some away from someone else.
Continue reading “To infinite and beyond”
- I deserve love.
- My body is sexy just the way it is.
- I ask for whatever I want and say no to whatever I don’t.
- I turn difficulties into opportunities for growth.
- Each new connection expands me.
- I contain all I need for a life of delight.
- Sex is a beautiful expression of my loving nature.
- I am on my personal path to ecstasy.
Above all, remember it’s about Love, Honesty and Communication.
Life has been somewhat busy for the last few months, I’ve completed a large complex two year project for my last client and moved on to a new client this week.
I’ve been staying with my girlfriends family during the week for the last three months and they’ve been wonderful and accepting, but I have missed my own space. That’s why I’m really happy about just moving into a new flat, which has been a bit of an additional challenge while changing jobs.
Continue reading “Back to work again…”
I had a bit of a revelation earlier this week surround this very simple word “Sorry” and it’s personal meaning for me.
As a word it can be used in so many different ways; to express sadness, sympathy, disappointment, polite refusal and of course an apology.
Continue reading “Sorry…”