Listen to hear

Listen to hear, not to respond

Communication is the very life blood and foundation of a good and solid relationship, but it comes in two parts.

  1. Expressing our thought and emotions to others so they can better understand
  2. Listen to what others, so we may better understand them.

It’s sad to say that the latter part is often neglected, because we only listen to respond and often fail to hear or understand.

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A bad Friday

A bad day, not

Normal I like Fridays, but yesterday was definitely an exception.

My 9 year old daughter was knocked of her bike by a car on the way back from school. She escaped with a few scrapes and bruises which was good. I’m so glad we’ve made her wear a fully face downhill style helmet. It saved her chin and face from sliding along the road.

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Talk, don’t judge

Human behaviour - talk don't judge

When we are in the middle of a heated debate, it’s tough to stay objective, especially when it’s about behaviour and starts to feel like a personal attack.

We all have to accept that unfortunately people are not perfect and that includes us, our partner(s) or partner’s partner(s). We are all by our human definition creatures ruled and driven by our emotions.

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In defense of polyamory

I book marked this piece for a repost many months ago. It struck a deep cord with me, take a look and see what you think…

I would like to make something very clear. Polyamory was not the direct cause of the dissolution of my marriage. It was an indirect cause. It ignited a fire in a relationship that was already fract…

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Other peoples shit

Other peoples shit, it burns

It’s time for another communication post and this one can be a very unpleasant experience.

“Other peoples shit”

As if dealing with our own emotion state is not enough, on top of that we have to also navigate our way through or around other people’s emotions and their less than perfect ownership.

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Drama Llamas

 

The drama llamaDo you know how to spot a drama llama?

Do you know exactly what  a drama llama is?

Well for those not familiar with the term it’s commonly defined as a person who randomly throws their own personal dramas on others, in the same way that a llama randomly spits.

“Oh no, here comes the drama llama! I haven’t finished cleaning up from the last time they spat their drama on me!”

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No one makes us feel

No one else can make you feel

This is the third post in my communication series and probably likely to be considered a little contentious. That’s not a problem in itself and I hope that it makes anyone that reads it think twice about how an emotional feeling develops inside us all.

Emotions are sometimes simple and other times mixed up and extremely complicated. What they all have in common is their source. All emotions come from within us and are driven by a combination of social conditioning, past experience and our own personal natural view, perspective and inclinations.

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