The only thing more annoying than not knowing what you want, is actually knowing what you want but not being able to find it…
I’m having one of those moments right now and the harder I try to find what I want the harder it seems to be to find it.
Love
Poly Dating
Finding a date when you’re male, the wrong side of 40 and openly poly can be hard.
I’ve found there seems to be a view that perhaps you’re a bit of a player and not really interested in serious relationships.
Transactional vs Altruistic relationship models
Polyamorous people tend to think about relationships a lot. I’m no exception, hence the blog. What I want to investigate in this post is the concept of the transactional and altruistic relationship models.
So let’s first define and agree what we mean by the term “transactional relationship” and why it’s an important stage in any relationship.
Continue reading “Transactional vs Altruistic relationship models”
All good things
I find myself in the rather unfortunate position of what I’ve decided to call a relationship transition.
I avoiding the usage of the term “breakup” because that usual infers a complete breakdown in all contact, and I’m hoping that’s not going to be the case.
Haiku – Change
“Previous weekend downs
Working week realisations
Positive outlook”
Things Change
Hi folks, it’s been a while since I last posted anything and that’s mainly been down to the natural pressures of a busy life.
I’ve survived the last couple of months of crazy, busyness at work.
One of my partners tried a new possible relationship that crashed and burned even before it’s really start, which has caused her no end of emotional pain. My other partner has also had problems in one of her relations, all based on the fact he’d been honest with her about many things.
Polyamory vs. Swinging
There is often some common confusion between the swinging lifestyle and polyamory, some people can even go as far as thinking the terms are synonymous and interchangeable.
Personally I see major differences and mixing them is really not a great idea in my view.
Cowboys and Cowgirls
I’ve personally used the term Cowboy or Cowgirl to describe a person who is monogamous that attempts to get romantically involved with someone who openly identifies as polyamorus.
Haiku – Loves
“Life with many loves
A polyamorus passion
Not always that easy“
Daily Poly Mantra
- I deserve love.
- My body is sexy just the way it is.
- I ask for whatever I want and say no to whatever I don’t.
- I turn difficulties into opportunities for growth.
- Each new connection expands me.
- I contain all I need for a life of delight.
- Sex is a beautiful expression of my loving nature.
- I am on my personal path to ecstasy.
Above all, remember it’s about Love, Honesty and Communication.
poly pride 