Here’s a very interesting and search question for those within the poly community.
Is it possible to actually be poly and find that elusive happily ever after feeling?
If we first start by throwing out the widely accepted starvation economy model regarding love, we may all stand a chance I guess.
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There are four major relationship killers out there on the rampage. They come in many disguises, but will reap destruction where ever they go if left unchecked.
1. Personal Criticism
“What is your problem? Can’t you do anything right!?”
Complaints are a natural and normal part of healthy relationships. We should all be able to discuss a specific complaint with a partner and reach some sort of agreement.
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This is my first poly post for 2018 and I’m really not sure what to write about on this dark, cold and wet morning.
I’m on the train on my way down to London for the week and awaiting the arrival of my breakfast (eggs benedict). I didn’t travel down on Monday due to a threatened strike by the rail union. I suspect the unions and rail companies could do with some lessons in communication based upon what I’ve read about the dispute.
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Over the past few years I’ve not had a particularly good experience during the festive period. It’s the time of year when I always find my available time stretched to and beyond breaking point.
My time has to be carefully distributed between my kids, partners, friends, family and of course myself and not necessarily in that priority order. Unfortunately it never seems to go quite as far as other people think it should or can, so the net result is usually disappointment all round and the real loser always seems to be me (nail hand to forehead).
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Well we are into December and the festive season is officially upon us. I would however like to point out to some retailers that it really shouldn’t start before Halloween, no matter what they think or feel the need to try and sell us. I do however unfortunately expect Easter eggs in the next few weeks based upon there current inability to understand a calendar.
I have unfortunately digressed from my original post topic and moved into the realms of shopping, so I’m going to go with the flow.
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I discovered today that I’ve been writing this blog for over 2 years and identified as polyamorus for close approaching 3 years. Doesn’t time fly when you’re having fun 😆
So I’d like to say a big thank you to all those who have read my bramblings, liked my posts and especially those who have chosen to commit by hitting the follow link.
I may be getting older but I’m still learning something new every day and this is very important for me. My thoughts, views and feelings on many subjects keep changing and evolving. I believe that being capable of changing by opinion based on experience, evidence and rational thinking helps improve and define me as person.
I still believe in my very basic and simple mantra “Truth, Trust and Honesty”
I’ve had a tough weekend looking after my kids and this has been topped off by a member of my extended family deciding that it’s okay to describe one of my partners as a “Slut” and then a few other choice words.
Now this word has many meanings for different people, but in this case was used purely as a weapon of attack and derogatory term, deliberately utilised to enforce there feelings of disgust at our life style choice and sow poison seeds of derision and hate.
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Following an intense session of sharing thoughts and emotions people are often feeling vulnerable and raw, so it’s not usually a good time to go back over the same ground immediately.
However once everyone has had some time to relax and settle down, say a day or so. Its not a bad idea to suggest and hopefully start a recap relating to the discussion, this can then become a vehicle for summarising the issues and any related actions or resolutions that’s have been agreed to help moving the issue forward.
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Talking open and honestly can be tough and painful at times, especially when sharing something that’s really hurting or you’re on the receiving end of some person home truths.
Even if people are using the best communication skills stuff can still really hurt. So when the dust starts to settle looking after all parties in the dialogue is extremely important.
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