I’ve never been one of the ‘pretty girls’

Learning to love is something you can’t really be taught, but you can learn and it starts with loving yourself.

I’ve written about this a few time and perhaps struggled to get the point across. That’s why I’ve decided to share the following post.

I’m not suggesting this approach is for everyone, but as a vehicle for learning self worth it has definitely worked for this person.

“I’m an exhibitionist. I post a lot of photographs and selfies on Fet because I love the attention, the appreciation and the validation it provides.”

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Watering your Submissive

I read the following post a while back and saved it for a rainy day.

It talks about a simple task and the consequences or non-compliance.

The D/s relationship dynamic is always fascinating especially when framed in such a beautiful way.

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Coercive Control & BDSM Test Results


I like to take this test every once in a while to see how I’ve changed with time, I tend to find that my top 5 don’t vary that much these days.

I have however noticed that one element has been slowly creeping up the the list and perhaps I need to explore why.

I think that knowing what you are, why you feel that way and accepting it is very important. It’s taken years for me to come to terms with these facts about myself.

I was listening to the radio yesterday and heard something about the new laws being introduced around coercive control within the UK, I’m really wondering what potential impact it could have upon the BDSM scene.

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Instructions via text

“You will orgasm easily today. Aroused from your meditation. Shameless. Fearless.”

I read the following post a while back and it really made me smile, I love the effort that went into the message and how good it is at describing a need and desire.

It puts into perspective an important facet of the partners relationship, yet suggest that it goes so much deeper.

Doing anything remotely like this, is actually takes a lot of thought and effort. Tasks can be a very important part of any D/s relationship if it gives something to one or both paties.

If I was marking this piece i would easily award it a A+

It also illustrates the power behind words and good communication

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The Great Illusion

The Great illusion created by consent

There is sometimes a total misunderstanding about the Top/bottom dynamic within a good sub/Dom relationship that’s easily overlooked by those new to the scene.

Many would be “Tops” enter the scene and assume that by adopting the title of ‘Master’ or ‘Mistress’ they have actually become one and therefore must automatically be honoured and respected by all bottoms, subs and slaves.


The only bottoms likely to buy into this BS, are those with even less knowledge and understanding than our poor delusional wannabe Top.

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My need: His will

“Today has been a frustrating day for my sub wishes. Master…playing with me last night but not taking full advantage of me; I came, but it wasn’t a huge release, just a very small one as…”

I came across this post while just following my reader feed and then looking at related posts from those that had liked it.

I’ve found this to be a great source of new material to read and enjoy.

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