Open letter to rope people

An interesting article I stumbled across sometime back and thought worth sharing in the future. That moment is now 😊

“Dear rope people,

The takate kote is not the only way to tie someone up. There are plenty of other ways to tie someone up. You don’t have to put the arms behind the back. In fact, you don’t …”

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I’ve never been one of the ‘pretty girls’

Learning to love is something you can’t really be taught, but you can learn and it starts with loving yourself.

I’ve written about this a few time and perhaps struggled to get the point across. That’s why I’ve decided to share the following post.

I’m not suggesting this approach is for everyone, but as a vehicle for learning self worth it has definitely worked for this person.

“I’m an exhibitionist. I post a lot of photographs and selfies on Fet because I love the attention, the appreciation and the validation it provides.”

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How Daddy makes me feel

I’ve discovered that there is a massive difference between the title “Daddy” to “Dominant” in a D/s relationship and also between Daddy as a title for a father. I personally had many reservations about this title, but have come to realise it is nothing more than that: a title.

A Daddy Dom is not interested in any acts of pedophilia, incest or any other paraphernalia act associated with children. The title is often unfortunately often misunderstood and associated with that, which is so wrong.

When a baby girl calls her Daddy by title, the feeling is not associated with feelings that she might get when she calls her really father the same title. This is generally the same with any other multi-use word in our language wonderfully confusing language.

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Coercive Control & BDSM Test Results

red-ropes-high-heels-bondage

I like to take this test every once in a while to see how I’ve changed with time, I tend to find that my top 5 don’t vary that much these days.

I have however noticed that one element has been slowly creeping up the the list and perhaps I need to explore why.

I think that knowing what you are, why you feel that way and accepting it is very important. It’s taken years for me to come to terms with these facts about myself.

I was listening to the radio yesterday and heard something about the new laws being introduced around coercive control within the UK, I’m really wondering what potential impact it could have upon the BDSM scene.

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Virtue and Vice

Quote by Marquis De Sade - Virtue

I’ve been thinking a lot about a quote credited to the Marquis De Sade

“In order to know Virtue we must first acquaint ourselves with vice”

Marquis De Sade

It first begs the question, what is virtue and vice? How do we measure them and by what standards can we compare them?

Take for example the number of sexual partners we each may have, is there such a thing as having too many sexual partners?

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Instructions via text

“You will orgasm easily today. Aroused from your meditation. Shameless. Fearless.”

I read the following post a while back and it really made me smile, I love the effort that went into the message and how good it is at describing a need and desire.

It puts into perspective an important facet of the partners relationship, yet suggest that it goes so much deeper.

Doing anything remotely like this, is actually takes a lot of thought and effort. Tasks can be a very important part of any D/s relationship if it gives something to one or both paties.

If I was marking this piece i would easily award it a A+

It also illustrates the power behind words and good communication

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