Slut…

Dictionary definition of the word slut

I’ve had a tough weekend looking after my kids and this has been topped off by a member of my extended family deciding that it’s okay to describe one of my partners as a “Slut” and then a few other choice words.

Now this word has many meanings for different people, but in this case was used purely as a weapon of attack and derogatory term, deliberately utilised to enforce there feelings of disgust at our life style choice and sow poison seeds of derision and hate.

Ironically enough, the word was used by someone who claims to be a life long feminist…

They have obviously not kept up with feminist current affairs over the past twenty years including countless feminist debates over the reclamation of the word “slut” and, in 2011, thousands of women taking to the streets across the globe in anti-rape marches called SlutWalks –  which is commonly used as a reference to how victims of sexual assault are often blamed for the violence done to them.

So instead of taking offense we will take up the fight that many feminists have long fought and attempt to wrestle away from its original users the power and harm of the word “slut” and to give it new meaning.

It’s about my partner being brave and seeking openly to claim her sexuality and agency.

So as members of the polyamorus community she doesn’t need the word “slut” to tell her what she  already knows and accepts: women have sex, some people don’t like that and she plans to  continue to do it anyway with anyone she dares to love and professes to care for.

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