I just read a post on Reddit from a young gay guy who’s considering entering into a relationship with a married gay couple.
Unicorn hunter alarm bells started going off as soon as I read it. He’s very new to Poly and in my view likely to be taken advantage of if he’s not careful.
Unicorn hunting is mostly male/female couples, but some themes of dating a gay couples are similar in my view.
Namely, people date people, not relationships. He is going to need to make sure his voice is heard in conversations and discussions.
He shouldn’t just agree to their rules for protecting their relationship, because his relationship with each of them is just as valid.
I wrote a bit about simple unicorn rules a while back that seems very relevant.
Previous post – Simple Unicorn Rules
I hope that my fears are ungrounded, but it just needed to be said. I may update this post as the thread develops.