Open and honesty communication is the key to success for any good relationship and this is even more true for any form of polyamory.
Assumptions are often the cause of more than their fair share of issues that could easily be avoid.
At sometime or other we will all make mistakes of this type, by assuming that something has been agreed or should be okay that isn’t. This is where the problems start to manifest themselves and potentially bring down everything that has so carefully been built and went before.
It is therefore critical that any such issues of this type are dealt with swiftly and the first critical action is identifying why the assumption was made and taking ownership of it. The next step is to making sure it doesn’t happen again.
If you do make a mistake admit it, own your own shit and also consider a valuable concept put forward by Voltaire
“We are all born of frailty and error.”
If you are on the receiving end of an assumption perhaps start by also making an assumption yourself. Assume that the person who made the assumption made an honest mistake and help them to understand why.
If you instead assume that it was actually intention you may well be project your own fears and Insecurity onto the other party and no good will come of it.
I made an assumption this week and unintentional hurt someone. I will do everything in my power to avoid this happening again, it’s my shit and I own it.