Communication has to be the hardest part of any relationship, at all stages in its natural life cycle.
It has to be a two-way street, no matter how much it hurts sometimes. That’s where being mindful and considerate comes into the equation.
The following statement has been levelled at me a number of times and its easy to perhaps misinterpret, it’s meaning.
“The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. we listen to reply.”
For example, I’m sure that when it was originally penned, its did not intend to mean the person listening does not have the right to respond after they have listened and understood, because any worth while conversation has to be a two-way street.
However on balance, I do wonder if its is merely coincidental that the words “LISTEN” & “SILENT” contain exactly the same letters.
We all have to learn there is a subtle difference between expressing your feelings or opinion and being rude or hurtful. It’s just like the difference between giving someone a bath and drowning them.
Any person that deny’s someone else the right to reply, is probably hiding an inability to face up to their own flaws and faults, but quite happy to throw stones at others with impunity.
I personal must learn to listen, understand and then speak. I just ask that others should be prepared to extend me the same curtsey.
Time to go out and find a talking stick…